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Ahmad Shah Karimi's avatar

I loved this piece—so many insights packed into just a few pages. Enlightening, heartwarming, and fun.

Endings are important, but as you mentioned, they can be difficult for all the reasons you highlighted and more. In societies where expectations dictate that relationships must endure—even when they no longer work—people often stay, bound by shame or fear of disgracing their families, even when both parties wish to move on.

And yet, endings matter. When something no longer works, letting go can be the only way forward—for oneself and the other. It allows both to reflect, heal, and move toward whatever kind of relationship or life they choose to create.

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Monika Jiang's avatar

This made my day, thank you, Ahmad! For voicing your perspective, and for sharing from your heart. I agree with you—and yet have so much to learn myself about endings, and how to accept them and the liminal space that often comes with them. Sending love to you!

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Oana Filip's avatar

In a world full of “versus”, seeing someone who encourages dialogue, collaboration and togetherness feels liberating. Even, or especially, when it comes to letting go. Thank you, Monika! 🤗

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Monika Jiang's avatar

Thank you, too—for recognizing, and equally moving towards togetherness, dialogue, and collaboration!

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Die Minga's avatar

Reading this post, many things resonated with me, especially remembering the impermanence of all things and Self- love in the face of lovelessness as a good reason for separation. I had quite a number of break ups, with one being by far the most painful one as it wasn’t mutual (einvernehmlich). It was an experience that shaped me and made it difficult for me to fully commit again in relationship that followed..

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Monika Jiang's avatar

I hear you on that—once trust has been breached in this way, it is difficult to find a way back in the relationships we engage in thereafter, thank you for sharing this with me and us—it’s something, I believe, many of us can relate to.

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Chris Everett's avatar

Always such a beautiful offering. Thank you Monika!

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Monika Jiang's avatar

❤️ thank you for receiving it!

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Jindy Mann's avatar

Beautiful reflections Monika.

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Monika Jiang's avatar

So appreciated, Jindy!

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